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Today I’ll be celebrating my 38th wedding anniversary with my very best friend!

Here are a few pictures that I dug up from our wedding day. Our wedding colors were mint and forest green which went well with the massive Christmas tree at the front of the church. It was the 70’s and we weren’t fancy folks, so no ties for the guys and that lovely wide lapel suit coat for my sweetheart.  I couldn’t find a dress simple enough in the stores, so I had this one made for $70.  I made the veil myself for a few bucks and I still love the simplicity of it all.Bride and Groom Toasting at 1977 WeddingWe both love Christmas, so we thought getting married in December was a great idea. We were on a tight budget and paid for our own wedding (mostly). Since the wedding was so close to Christmas we asked our families not to get us any Christmas presents.  The cool thing was that we went on a 2 week honeymoon and got back just in time to open all of our wedding presents on Christmas morning. What a fun morning that was! Sitting as a married couple for the first time in our little one bedroom furnished apartment near 7th Street and Camelback Rd., reading every card with reminders of love and commitment from our friends and family. Then opening all those precious wedding gifts from the people we loved! There couldn’t have been a better way to start our lives together.

It’s crazy to think that we’ve been together for all these years! We’ve changed and grown and learned so much about ourselves and each other. Even though any relationship that last this long has it’s ups and downs, I’m so blessed that this guy has been there beside me through it all.

These are just a few things that I’m thankful for:

  • Thankful that he’s been such a wonderful partner and provider in our family. Practical, strong, steady and careful with our lives and resources
  • So blessed that he’s always been there to love and care for our children.  I’ve never had any doubt that he was 100% committed to them.
  • Thankful that we’ve learned to appreciate each other’s interests and strengths and realize that even though God created us very differently, He designed us to compliment each other perfectly.
  • Grateful that we’ve learned to love, forgive and protect each other’s weaknesses.
  • I love that he’s a life-long learner and constantly listening, watching, reading and analyzing everything.  I’m continually amazed at all the information that’s stored in his brain. It’s such a joy to see that the same love of learning has been passed on to our kids.
  • Thankful that he’s been there to listen, comfort, and hold me through so many sorrows, losses and painful times.
  • Blessed that he lets me dream big dreams and encourages my creativity and adventurous spirit.
  • Most of all, I’m so blessed to know that as long as the Lord allows we’ll get to walk this earth together discovering new things, laughing, crying, and enjoying each other’s company.  Thank you God, for placing him in my life.

1977 Wedding PartyI’m so thankful that we still have connections to all the people in this picture. What a blessing to have known (and loved) them all for so long!

Thank you Lord for a wonderful day to remember your goodness!

 

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Less than a month ago, my precious mother passed away. She had a long, healthy and independent life, having celebrated her 91st birthday in January. Of course, that doesn’t take away any of the sadness of having her gone. Even though our personalities were quite different, we had many things in common…talents, interests, love of travel, etc. In honor of her on Mother’s Day, I thought I’d take some time to remember some of the things that I cherish most about our 50 plus years together. She was an amazing woman and a true friend and encourager to me, while still being my mom.

Janice Perkins and Grumpy at Disneyland

Even Grumpy couldn’t stay that way for long with Mom around.

Let me start by saying that Mom’s primary love language was gift giving.  Even though she was constantly on a limited budget, her favorite thing to do was find reasons to buy us special treats and take us special places.

  1. She was always quick to offer a cool washcloth on my forehead when I had a fever
  2. Hot tea with lemon to drink when I had a sore throat
  3. Campbell’s Cream of Tomato soup with oyster crackers always hit the spot when I had a cold
  4. I always loved staying home from school and watching TV, reading books and coloring in my cozy spot on the coach when I was ill. Partially because it gave me a chance to have 1-on-1 time with Mom when all the other siblings were at school, but also because she always made me feel so loved and cared for.
  5. For many years, Mom made it a point to buy each of us an entirely new outfit for Easter Sunday. For the girls it wasn’t just a new dress, but matching socks, shoes, purse, gloves and even a hat! This special day of getting all decked out to attend church and then attend big family potlucks and Easter egg hunts was so much fun! It was even more special because we only got new clothes a few times a year.
  6. 1965 All Dressed up for Easter Easter morning was also filled with sweets and treats of all kinds. Another chance for Mom to show us how much she loved us and how she wanted to spoil us.  I’m sure her sparse childhood during the Great Depression motivated her to try to make up for it in our young lives.1965.04 Easter Perkins kitchen table
  7. She was also our biggest helper with school projects. Mostly she would brainstorm with me about supplies and ideas, then was my cheerleader rather than hands-on helper, so I could work through it and have success on my own merits. I’m so thankful that she didn’t feel the need to do most of it herself. What’s the point in that?
  8. The aroma of big pots of spaghetti, slumgullion or one of my favorites, Pot roast on Sundays wafting through the house welcomed us home!  I learned to cook from her without using recipes.  Now I’m not intimidated if I don’t have all the exact ingredients for a new dish.  I just see what’s in the cupboards and improvise something similar. Thanks Mom.
  9. Occasionally Mom made Liver and onions, which I hated. She always made me eat a few tiny bites, which I reluctantly gagged down with huge gulps of milk. She said it was good for me, but it always tasted like I was eating a vitamin pill for dinner. Ugh!  Guess what dish she taught me how to make first?  Maybe she thought if I cooked it I’d eat it more. Oh well.
  10. A little thing like Mom’s button tin brings back so many memories too.  Take a look at more about that here.Mom's Button Tin

And this is just the beginning of my list.  If you want to read more, visit Part 2 here.

Stop by again to see the rest in the coming days.

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Today Terry and I celebrate 35 years together.  This is a picture of our wedding invitation, created by our precious and talented friend, Gary DeLacy.  It was printed on a 3 1/2 x 4 1/2 inch piece of clear plastic and we couldn’t understand why our parents complained about the small font.  Now we understand.

Wedding invite close up

We won’t actually be doing much celebrating today, but will enjoy some special time together later this week. You see December is a great month for a wedding, but a crazy month for an anniversary.  There are always so many other things going on and so many other things to spend money on that we’ve often celebrated in January or February. But this year we’ll have a chance to get out of town for a few days and just hang out together. No big presents, no big parties, just time together, which is my favorite kind of anniversary celebration.Terry and Nancy

So in honor of the big day, here are 35 things I love about my husband…in no particular order

  1. he’s willing to go on all kinds of adventures with me.
  2. he loves Jesus
  3. he loves our kids
  4. he loves to read and was the most creative reader for our kids.  He did voices and everything!
  5. he keeps me warm when I get cold
  6. he’s a talented musician – guitar, mandolin, harmonica, bass, banjo…
  7. and humble about his gifts and talents
  8. he’s so smart about all kinds of stuff and he’s really good with numbers
  9. he loves astronomy, history, music, sports, food…
  10. he loves chocolate almost as much as I do
  11. he’s a funny guy
  12. he’s stuck with me for 35 years
  13. he encourages me to follow my dreams even when they’re things that he wouldn’t dream of doing.
  14. he loves to drive on road trips
  15. he always willing to drive (so I can fall asleep on the way home)
  16. he takes good care of himself
  17. he has always taken good care of our family
  18. he’s really good at setting up technical stuff, like connecting the cable box to the TV and receiver and Roku and all
  19. he’s steady and strong
  20. consistent and committed
  21. he works hard at his job, but doesn’t make it more important than his family
  22. he loves to travel and has always been committed to making it a priority for our family
  23. when we were dating he drove all the way across town to pick me up for church even though he lived a block from the building
  24. he does all the yard work even when it’s 115 degrees
  25. he laughs hard with me about the silliest things, even to the point of tears
  26. he kills bugs and takes out the trash
  27. he’s good at researching purchases, trips and all kinds of stuff
  28. he let me have a cat (for 21 years) even though he wasn’t a Cat Person. He fell in love with that cat too, even though he wouldn’t admit it for the first decade or so.
  29. he lets me host big get-togethers with friends and family even though his ideal size group is about 6 people (including us)
  30. he’s great at grilling AND always helps with clean up
  31. he goes to musicals with me and doesn’t make fun of them, even though he thinks they’re kind of silly
  32. he’s romantic
  33. he lets me take pictures of his food when we’re out for dinner, and he stops and waits when I want to take pictures (without complaint) wherever we go.
  34. he’s flexible and accommodating
  35. he loves me so much more than I deserve! (of course, you can probably tell that)

I’m so thankful that God brought us together. I think I’ll keep him around for another 35, if he’s willing.

Terry and Nancy at Hand in Hand

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Just wanted to let you know that I’m still alive.

We’ve had several out of town guests visiting over the last month or so, plus I’ve been sequestered trying to set up an invitation, web page and registration form for our upcoming Hand in Hand Reunion.  I’m happy to say that we’re in the home stretch and I hope to have it all done by this weekend sometime.

In the meantime, why don’t you check out the new Hand in Hand blog that my friend, Linda created to start gathering stories from that season of our lives back in the 70’s.  The photo above is me on the left with Shira, the group that I sang with back then.

Hand in Hand Memories Blog

In case you’ve never heard of Hand in Hand it was an evangelistic music ministry in Phoenix, AZ in the 70’s and early 80’s.  It was started by a group of friends and the band “The New Beginning” to provide a place to reach out to young people with the gospel of Jesus Christ through the music of the day.

If you’d like to see more pictures and even hear some of the music, you can also visit BernieRolfe.com

So what were you doing back in the 70’s?

I’ll probably be pretty sporadic in my blog posts in the coming weeks, but don’t go away.  I love having visitors.

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Love as a Way of Life – a new book by Dr. Gary Chapman

I’ve recently had the privilege of reading Gary Chapman’s latest book, “Love as a Way of Life”. Good news is that I have another one of these (hardcover) books to give away as well! You don’t even have to pay shipping. It’s a great addition to any library or even a wonderful gift. I will be drawing one name from everyone who comments on this post over the next week, so please add your name to the list. I’ll be announcing the winner in the evening on Tuesday, July 22nd.

In the book Gary teaches us how to cultivate a lifestyle of love and how doing so leads to satisfaction and success in every area of life.

His emphasis is on the seven characteristics of authentic love: kindness, patience, forgiveness, humility, courtesy, generosity, and honesty. It sounds a little bit like a Boy Scout pledge, but actually many of these principles are not new to our society…they’ve just been lost in our selfish lives somewhere along the line.

At first I thought the author was missing some key elements of love, but there are several times where he mentions affirmation under these various headings, which I believe to be a critical characteristic of showing love. And although he doesn’t use the word too often in the book, his definitions of patience can also be defined as grace in many ways. In one instance, I don’t necessarily agree with part of his outlook on forgiveness, but I’m wondering if it’s just a difference in terminology.

The book also includes self tests, practical ideas for building daily habits of love, and inspiring examples of love’s power to change lives.

Convinced that in a world of constant conflict people desperately need authentic love, Chapman paints a compelling vision of how life can be richer and relationships more satisfying for anyone who practices Love As a Way of Life.

Author’s Bio: Gary Chapman is the author of twenty-five books, including the New York Times bestseller The Five Love Languages, with more than 4 million copies in print. His daily radio program, A Love Language Minute, is broadcast on more than 100 stations nationwide. Chapman, a graduate of Moody Bible Institute, Wheaton College, Wake-Forest University, and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, serves on the pastoral staff at Calvary Baptist Church in Winston-Salem, North Carolina.

Don’t forget to add your comment below for a chance to win your own copy of this book. (over a $15 value if you include the shipping.) I will be drawing the name in the evening on Tuesday, July 22nd. If you don’t want to wait for the drawing, or need more than one copy, you can order it here.

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